The little guy I'm asking myself these questions for.
What I have come up with so far is sort of guiding principles, rather than any sort of plan - as I realize, now, with a baby, that plans go right out the window (along with pride.)
-To enjoy my children (there's only one so far)
-Be in my integrity (meaning that I do not need to apologize for my parenting choices and I must resist trying to meet the expectations of others.)
-Sort out what serves our family
-Focus on my way of being, as everything follows that (i.e. be loving, be respectful, be encouraging)
Fortunately, I get to spend time with many fantastic mothers all doing things differently and respecting each other. May that be an ongoing truth in my life!